So you’ve decided to spice up your sex-life by visiting a swingers’ club – either solo or with your partner? You feel ready to cross the threshold of the kingdom of hedonistic pleasures? Congratulations! This experience might be ground-breaking and get your erotic roller-coaster running!
Nightly wild erotic parties, sexy attires and drinks always ready, Swingers’ Parties are definitely worth a visit. However, some newcomers who hadn’t previously been to lifestyle clubs and got invited for the first time, might end up wearing the wrong or inappropriate outfits.
Your excitement about indulging in group bliss is probably mixed with some fear of embarrassment. We know you have many doubts and questions, but fear not! Diamonds Production is here to advise you on the major topics, one of them being “what am I expected to wear? Is my clothing supposed to be sexy, elegant and sophisticated or rather casual, comfortable and easy to remove? Or perhaps I should be naked in this paradise, just like Eve and Adam in Garden Eden?”
No kidding: it is a serious issue! Our readers frequently send inquiries for tips on dress codes in swingers’ clubs. So swinger virgins – here we go!
You might want to browse the club’s offer and choose the themed party of your preference. For the first time, we recommend evenings intended only for couples, because then you will avoid lonely gentlemen, who are often aggressively persistent in their advances. Later, when you get used to the specifics of a given place, and you wish to have bolder fun, go to gang-bang or BDSM-style parties. The venues try to diversify their “repertoire” so that everyone can find something for themselves. Search, experiment, but don’t do anything against yourself or just to please whoever you are going with.
Even if you are open to anything, do check the club’s website to see what event is taking place that evening before you go. Most places organize fun sexy themes for each night, like Toga, Pimp and Ho, Leather and Lace, or a Glow Party. There might be a special dress code, e.g. masks, devils and angels, black & white, evening style, Valentine’s Day etc. Some themed night swingers’ parties are PINK and you are expected to wear your pinkest kinkiest attire to have fun. Pink decorations all over the place, pink drinks and – no surprise – even complementary condoms are pink.
Better to know the night’s theme ahead of time than to be surprised at the entrance. If you show up at the premises out of the blue, unprepared and wearing the wrong outfit, the bouncers might turn you away. Rushing home or to a store in a panic to make up for this ignorance will surely spoil your evening, causing nervousness and stress instead of sensual excitement.
How to dress for your first time in a swing club if there are no instructions on the website? Some Swingers’ Clubs do not have dress codes but they always expect their guests to “dress to impress”. A good rule of thumb is to dress as if you were going on a first date. You need to remember that you are meeting new people with hopes of finding some extra bedroom fun, so you want to look nice. For the first timers who are a little nervous, wear outfits that make you feel comfortable. Something that you would wear to a nice dinner or to a vanilla club is perfect.
Women are in a slightly privileged position, because whether they choose sexy underwear or/and a dress – they will almost always match the club’s requirements.
Underwear – to wear it or not to wear it, that is a question. Well, dear ladies, it is your choice, because there is absolutely no expectation to opt either way. But if it’s your first time going to a swingers’ club, you might feel more comfortable with some sexy lingerie. Then you have the option to choose how much you want to show yourself to others. This way you will feel safer and more in control.
A little tip for the ladies: it is good to have some distinguishing elements on your underwear, because after the fun is over, when the great search for bras, thongs and panties begins, the recognizable tags allow you to avoid a lingerie mix-up. Who wants to put on sweaty things belonging to another owner, right?
Wearing your lingerie only is perfectly fine BUT many ladies don’t like parading in their underwear from the moment they leave the locker room. They prefer to wear a sexy dress and survey the room first. They enter the club looking posh and classy, observe the guests, have a drink and a chat, and when the opportunity arises for closer acquaintance – only then reveal the secrets hidden under the dress. This adds an extra note of excitement by building up sexual tension. After all, a swingers’ club is about sensuality and not just mechanical fucking.
Ladies want to tempt, seduce and attract attention. For this to happen, a special outfit making one feel like a queen is a must. At the same time, you are not supposed to overdo it, because well – the idea is to get naked eventually. Therefore, do not choose glamorous but “complicated” dresses. Whatever you decide to wear, make sure it is easily “removable”. My friend learned it the hard way when, once in a fit of excitement, her dress got torn apart. She got tangled up in a designer piece made of a sexy lace net, and a guy as strong as a gorilla tried to free the lady by tearing her expensive outfit to pieces. Therefore the advice: choose outfits that are easy to shed, because in a moment of desire you will want to get rid of your clothes quickly. Preferably a dress that you can unzip and take off with only one hand. Follow the famous French designer Coco Chanel and wear your favorite little black dress. It is guaranteed to make you feel like a sexy cat lady on a hunt.
By the way, most women generally change several times throughout a night depending on their comfort level. If you are a little nervous, show up in a more conservative outfit (e.g. a sexy top and jeans) and once you feel more comfortable you can always change into something a little more risqué (a hot dress or lingerie) later in the evening.
Wear elegant high heels. They make your legs slimmer, influence your posture and add sex appeal. But do not experiment with new shoes straight from a shop. Choose shoes that have already been walked in, tried and tested, because otherwise you may end up with chafing and blisters. Instead of enjoying yourself and focusing on pleasure, you will be wondering where to find some pain relief, a plaster or strong male arms to carry you. Oh, don’t forget to take your flip-flops if you want to use the wellness area that many clubs have on offer.
Now as for the gentleman, you would think it’s simple: great pair of jeans, nice collared shirt, a little cologne and you’re sure to drive the ladies crazy. Right? Wrong! Contrary to vanilla clubs, here men have a somewhat difficult task, because the restrictions in Swingers’ Clubs apply more often to gentlemen than to the ladies. Depending on the venue, male guests might be allowed entry when wearing black tie & looking like James Bond or they might be required to wear nice underwear (usually black boxer shorts) or… just a towel. Yes, you read that right. Pants are not allowed! Picture a fun party with elegant ladies in their best outfits sitting at the bar, chatting with gentlemen covered only with towels around their hips. But well. This is how it happens. Anyway, when the fun starts, all the clothes usually end up in the corner.
Why is there a ban on wearing pants? – you may ask. Well, it is to reduce the risk of bringing a phone to the premises and documenting sex taking place there. A similar prohibition applies to bringing women’s handbags. Electronic devices are a huge NO-NO and if you get caught using one, you might end up in serious trouble. All information on the subject of discretion can be found on the club’s website – either in the description of the event or in the rules of conduct.
So gentlemen, how do you make sure you look your best?
Contrary to appearances, the inability to wear trousers does not release you from the obligation to be elegant. From the very moment you enter the premises, you are exposed to the view and evaluation of others. Make sure you take the time to groom all the hair on your body before going to the club. Wear a nice dark t-shirt or stylish shirt (preferably a short-sleeved shirt as it is often hot in clubs) and mono-colored boxer shorts (black or navy blue). We advise against wearing briefs, as well as patterned boxer shorts (hearts, reindeer, etc.). They simply look ridiculous. Same applies to wearing ball caps, unless it’s a theme party.
In clubs with a wet zone (saunas, jacuzzi), men often move around the premises in a towel. Therefore, it is worth taking your own, aesthetically looking towel with you, if you do not want to rely on those offered by the service.
What about footwear? After all, shoes and socks look strange when just wearing underwear or a towel… Well, get some decent-looking flip-flops and you will have one less problem. Give up the idea of wearing sports shoes that, firstly, are the wrong footwear in a swing club, and second – because of them, you may simply be refused entry. Btw. you will leave your street shoes in the locker room but still: don’t come in your old, comfy, worn-out ones. Good first impression goes a long way.