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“Kiss my ass” is probably a sentence that we hear more often in heated discussions than in bed. But have you ever heard about “kissing the black hole”, “rimming”, “rim job”, “eating ass”, or “tossing the salad”? Those are colloquial names for anal–oral sex. The proper term is “anilingus” (also spelled “analingus“, from the Latin anus and -lingus, from lingere, “to lick”) and it means performing oral sex on your partner’s anus and stimulting it by using the mouth, including lips, tongue, or teeth. People may engage in anilingus for its own sake, before anal fingering or penetration, or as part of foreplay. It can be a part of any sexual relationship, whether gay, bisexual or straight, althought studies indicate that anilingus is a rare sexual practice between women.
The person performing anilingus is the active partner and the person receiving anilingus is regarded as the passive partner in the act. Let’s concentrate on you being the active part.
Of course, rimming requires a large portion of courage and openness to new experiences. Once you have decided to please your partner anally, you should definitely start gently, without going straight for the black hole (by that we actually mean penetrating the anus with your finger or tongue). Before you begin, your partner may like it if you gently kiss and touch the area around the anus including the perineum – the area of skin between the genitals and the anus. You can then focus on the anus, circling your tongue around the outer area and finally inserting your tongue. This erogenous zone has a relatively high concentration of nerve endings, so remember to pay attention to your partner and do what they clearly enjoy, whether that’s licking, sucking or gently probing. A “rim job” can involve a variety of techniques to stimulate the anus, like the tongue moving in and out, around the edge of the anus or up and down the insides of the cheeks of the buttocks.
Rimming can be done in a number of sex positions including
1. Doggy Style
The passive partner is on all fours in the doggy position with the active partner performing anilingus from behind.
2. Missionary Anilingus
The passive one is on their back with legs raised high and the knees drawn towards the chest. Some sort of support, such as a pillow under their hips to raise the buttocks and provide a comfortable angle can come in handy. With the partner’s anus exposed, the active person kneels to give a great oral.
3. The 69 Position
The 69 Position with the passive partner on top. The active side is flat on their back and the passive partner lies down on the active partner, who performs anilingus on the exposed anus.
4. Sit On My Face
Often used in combination with the 69 position (as described above), this one has the active partner lying on their back with the passive partner sitting on their face. This position allows the receiving partner to become more active or even completely dominant as they can now dictate the tempo, gyrate their hips and thrust their pelvis.
5. The Rusty Trombone
The Rusty Trombone is a sexual act in which a man stands exposing his anus. Another person typically kneels behind the man and licks his anus but simultaneously reaches up beneath the testicles or around the body to manually administer rapid up and down motions of the penis (performs masturbation on the standing partner), thus somewhat resembling playing the trombone.
Stay Clean
Worried about poop-bacteria and a bad smell? If you are concerned about hygiene, take a shower and/or ask your partner to wash first. You could also bathe together as part of your sensual foreplay.
To make the whole thing more pleasant, it is a good idea for both partners to properly hygienically prepare in advance and groom the body hair. Whether intestinal cure or intimate shaving, the more the better!
An important tip: If you are giving oral sex to a woman, don’t move from the anus to the vagina, as this can transfer bacteria and cause infection.
Rimming – why men love to be satisfied anally
We all know that the buttocks play a major role in men’s sex. Whether it’s a smooth slap on the bottom or anal sex, many men love asses almost more than female boobs.
The anus and perineal area is one of the most erogenous zones due to the many nerve tracts that converge. Therefore guys might feel delighted if their own butt is not neglected. If you stimulate this area using your fingers and tongue, you will provide an unforgettable experience for him.