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Having sex in a public space and basically anywhere outside your home, is just one of many ways which men, over the course of time, have used to give vent (as Italians say) to one of their most intimate passions. How common sex in public is today is difficult to say, given the fact that we cannot quote any reliable records or statistics. Instead, we can only take into account our personal experience. As for me, it happened several times: the first was when I fingered a classmate outside a nightclub. The following years, I also had a full-on sexual intercourses in a park, in an elevator and even was given a blowjob in a taxi. I was seen by a third person just once, while I was banging a prostitute on the banks of the Arno River in Florence. I was really young, I was on leave with my fellow mates from the military service, and I was a virgin with a great desire to do it. We were surprised by an old man who was probably taking his morning walk, and I remember how he mumbled, but I didn’t stop at his remarks.
As an observer, I have never seen others have sex outdoors or at any other public places. For sure, sex outside home has been around since the dawn of mankind when humans used to live in small communities and in caves. Today, however, people have separate homes or can, if they need to, rent a room for a short period. Yet, this way of having sex is still on.
Mostly in the Western civilization, sex in public is considered as living through an experience completely different from the one people normally have at home or in private spaces. First of all, for many it is a representation of seeking a new kind of adventure in which the element of risk plays a fundamental role. Knowing that you can be caught in the act at any moment adds a touch of thrill that makes it all the more exciting. The fact that this practice is (for obvious reasons) considered illegal is not to be underestimated, too – after all, having been seen by somebody means involving that person in a sexual act without his or her consent, and it is even worse if a child passes by and sees you.
It’s an entirely different story for those people for who having sex outdoors is the only way of having sex at all. I am referring to those social groups of the population that live in severe poverty, where the houses are usually inhabited by many people and the economic resources are insufficient even to pay for a room for an hour in a hotel.
Slightly different is the case with young people who, in addition to not being economically self-sufficient, do not want, or cannot have sex in the house they share with their parents. An alternative is the back seat of the car, in case a car is available.
Similar case to the aforementioned one can be observed in those countries where prostitution is illegal and therefore, this activity often takes place in the streets or again in a car. This is the case in my country, Italy, where for various reason girls or women cannot offer the service legally behind closed doors, but, are pretty much free of penalty and prosecution if they do it outdoors.
Anyway, if we want to analyze sex in public in its practical aspects, it must be said that those, who are about to do it, should get straight to the point, which means they have to completely skip the whole foreplay. The sense of precariousness and the awareness of doing something not ordinary and forbidden is enough to ensure the necessary amount of arousal and excitement.
A slightly different approach toward this kind of sex is the one chosen by those couples who attends parties held in public places and have group sex or go to partner-swinging themed parties. The reasons a couple may decide to actively participate in this type of events differ. Surely, a key factor is that these couples, among other characteristics, have a strong aspiration to leading an actively open and shared sexual life. Swingers are usually respectful and tolerant people, leading stable lives as trustworthy partners, who, at some point of their relationship, decide that it might be worth trying to expose and share their sexuality in a surrounding with a high degree of acceptance, safety and cleanliness.
In recent years, swinger parties have seen an exponential growth mainly because they offer the possibility for fulfillment of many different types of sexual fantasies like: having sex with your partner while others are watching you, getting involved with multiple partners or just witnessing your lover having an open affair with somebody else. Swinger parties are very popular especially in USA, where the tradition goes back to the fifties of last century. In the US, the swinger clubs are united by the North American Swing Club Association (NASCA), and parties can accommodate as many as four thousand attendees. NASCA holds conventions, seminars and classes.
Well, what a difference compared to the fulfilment of sexual needs and desires in poor countries like India or Nigeria for instance, where sex in public is not an alternative, but for many it is the only option. If we add outdoor prostitution and sex in public by young or even more established couples, maybe we will have the key to understand why sex in general is so relevant in society, and that meeting those needs, one way or another, cannot be held back by morals or impracticality. I like comparing it to a river which, while skirting mountains slopes and valleys, would eventually and quite naturally flow free and strong. Sometimes the same river is forcefully deminished to canals or ditches. It can also dry out or be suppressed tout court. What is sure, and I mean that in the physical sense, is that once it spring out from its source, it cannot be contained.
–By Daniel De Luise
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