The topic of faking orgasms has been a source of interest and discussion for many years. Some individuals consider it to be a “little white lie” when they are unable to reach climax during sexual intercourse, as it may spare their partner’s ego and make the experience more enjoyable. However, there are also those who fake it simply to get the act over with.
The ruling opinion is that people (or specifically: women) should not fake their orgasms. But did you know that by doing so, they can increase their arousal? In fact, according to various sources, as many as 60% to 90% of ladies report faking their orgasms during sex and for a good reason. Research has shown that it has a significant advantage. Allow us to explain the benefits of faking the big “O”.
How Does Female Orgasm work?
Female orgasm is a complicated mix of feelings and physical sensations that can be different for each woman. Unlike guy orgasms, which often come with ejaculation, ladies can have orgasms from different kinds of stimulation, like the clitoris, vagina, or even their nipples.
Most female partners need stimulation of the clitoris, which has the most nerve endings in the body, to orgasm. The clitoris has legs and “bulbs” around the vagina that fill with blood during arousal and make it more sensitive. Some goddesses can also orgasm from stimulation of the G-spot or cervix, or a combo of both.
When a woman is turned on, blood rushes to her genital area, making it more sensitive and causing physical reactions like faster heartbeat, heavier breathing, and muscle spasms in the vagina, uterus, and anus. Hormones also signal the vagina to release fluid to help with penetration. Although female orgasm doesn’t come with semen, some queens might release a mix of pee and gland secretions during orgasm.
But not all women have orgasms easily. Things like birth control, pregnancy, menopause, stress, relationship problems, physical and mental health, sexual abuse history, and culture or religion can affect a girl’s ability to orgasm. And it’s impossible to know if your partner has had an orgasm without asking her.
So, in short, female orgasm is a complex and personal experience that can vary from “gal to gal”. It’s important to remember that the clitoris and erogenous zones are crucial for most women’s orgasms, and factors like health, culture, and relationships can impact whether a woman reaches orgasm or not.
How to Fake an Orgasm?
So, what exactly is a fake orgasm? It is the act of pretending to reach climax when, in reality, the individual has not. To simulate an orgasm, the person will usually exhibit enthusiastic behaviors that are typically associated with orgasm, such as rapid breathing, vocalizing pleasure (moans, screams, etc.), hair tossing, and hip gyrations. They may also intensify their actions and simulate a release to further convince their partner of the fake climax.
The topic of fake orgasms has been the subject of many discussions and even the focus of a scene in the romantic movie, “When Harry Met Sally.” In this scene, Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal argue about the fact that he was confident no woman had ever faked it with him. The scene features one of the most convincing on-screen portrayals of a fake orgasm, showcasing just how difficult it can be to differentiate between a real and fake one.
Who Fakes Orgasms, and How Often?
The results of various studies and surveys indicate that faking orgasms is a common occurrence. A study conducted by The Journal of Sexual Medicine among college-aged women found that 67% of the sample pool reported faking an orgasm during intercourse. A recent British study of 71 women aged 18 to 48 revealed that 25% of the sample faked pleasure sounds 90% of the time, during both foreplay and vaginal intercourse, with the primary reason being to get the act over with. A survey conducted by Glamour magazine produced similar results, with only 28% of the 1500 women surveyed saying they could orgasm from penetration alone. Most of the respondents indicated that they required some form of additional stimulation, such as manual stimulation (38%), oral sex (21%), or a vibrator (3%).
Men Fake it Too!
It is also worth mentioning that men are not immune to faking orgasms. Polls and surveys indicate that a smaller percentage of men fake orgasms as well, and this can be made easier to do convincingly with the use of condoms. A web poll conducted by a popular men’s website showed that as many as 50% of men admitted to faking an orgasm at least once in their lives. An ABC News Primetime random telephone poll conducted in 2004 found that 11% of the 1501 adult participants reported faking orgasms.
In conclusion, faking orgasms is a common occurrence. It is important to understand the reasons behind it (and maybe have an honest conversation or two).
Reasons to Simulate Climax
Faking orgasms is a common issue in many personal relationships, both in and outside of the bedroom. There are many reasons why people may choose to fake an orgasm, including a lack of communication, stress, distraction, fatigue, pressure to perform, or physical conditions.
One of the biggest reasons for faking it is the assumption that simultaneous orgasms are a guarantee during sex, which is simply not true. People also tend to hold onto the unrealistic belief that they should climax during intercourse, but this ignores the variability in individual sexual responses and bodies.
In addition, many people worry about taking too long to climax, or feel that sex is unsatisfying or unengaging due to relationship or sexual conflicts. They may also feel obligated to please their partner, which can lead to faking an orgasm to avoid hurting their feelings.
Faking an orgasm can also be a result of the use of certain medications or medical conditions, such as diabetes or neurological problems, which can inhibit physical ability to climax.
First Benefit of Fake Orgasms: Increased Arousal
Erin Cooper, a researcher at Temple University in Philadelphia, has taken a closer look at the sex lives of 366 women. The result: surprisingly, many women simulated their orgasms, mainly because they “fear too much intimacy”. According to the study, some women even doubted that they could enjoy sex at all. But talking to their partner about it? They did not want to and instead chose the path of lying. However, the women should not be judged harshly, as some of them were able to increase their arousal by faking an orgasm. Erin Cooper told LiveScience, “The small number of women who fake an orgasm to arouse themselves showed greater sexual satisfaction. We should not question their strategy, it is just one of many ways to have good sex.”
Fun Fact: The fact that women can increase their arousal by pretending to be aroused reminds us a lot of something called Laughter Yoga. Here, participants also fake their laughter until they finally have to laugh for real.
Second Benefit of Fake Orgasms: Burning Calories
Have you ever wondered how many calories you burn when climaxing? Sure, it has to be a few, since many muscles are tense during an orgasm. But exactly how many calories are we talking about?
How Many Calories Does an Orgasm Burn?
Foreplay, sex itself, different positions, and of course the orgasm itself – all these things burn different amounts of calories. Here’s a list of the exact numbers:
A) Orgasm Alone
An orgasm alone, according to a study by the University of Quebec, burns surprisingly many calories. During an orgasm, many nerves are active and many muscles in your body are activated. So the climax alone – without the sex beforehand – burns about 200 calories, depending on the position, body weight, and intensity.
B) Multiple Orgasms
In the case of multiple orgasms, the whole thing looks even more spectacular. Depending on the intensity and duration of the orgasm, such a multiple orgasm can burn nearly 300 calories. Really impressive.
C) Orgasm in Combination with Sex
So you’re already burning quite a few calories with an orgasm alone, but if you add sex to it, you’re burning even more. A study from Canada showed that women burn about 69 calories during a 24-minute sex session. This amounts to about 3.1 calories per minute.
According to the study, the calorie consumption for men is slightly higher. Specifically, men burn about 101 calories in 24 minutes, or about 4.2 calories per minute, which is mainly due to the fact that men tend to move more during sex than women.
Overall, if you add up the calories you burn during sex and the calories you burn during an orgasm, you’ll end up with about 200 to 400 calories in just 24 minutes, depending on gender and intensity.
D) Fake Orgasm
Even more impressive than the number of calories you burn during an orgasm is the number of calories you burn when you fake an orgasm. Given that nearly 80% of all women have already faked an orgasm, this is certainly relevant.
When you fake an orgasm, you consciously tense certain muscles, so you burn significantly more calories than if you actually reach your climax. But it gets even crazier: British general practitioner Dr. Carol Cooper claims in an interview with B.Z. that faking an orgasm can burn “up to 2000 calories depending on the acting intensity”. Of course, these numbers are not scientifically proven, but it’s still fun to think about.
So there you have it – the truth about how many calories you burn during an orgasm, multiple orgasms, and a faked orgasm. The next time you reach your climax, you can at least think about all the calories you’re burning.
Should I always fake my orgasm now?
Of course not. How can our partner find out what really increases arousal if we do not communicate openly? How can real orgasms be possible if no one knows how it works?
As beautiful as climaxes may be, it should also be clear that no woman’s ego should depend on whether or not she has an orgasm. As multiple studies show, many women do not have an orgasm during sex. So nobody should be ashamed of that, as the so-called orgasm gap is widespread and absolutely normal.
A way out of this dilemma is sexual practices that can actually increase your sexual arousal. This includes extended foreplay. Author Rebecca Dakin explains that many men do not really use the time before sex and switch to penetration too soon. A mistake! In the expert’s opinion, women need at least 45 minutes of foreplay before sex to increase arousal and eventually reach orgasm.
Faking an orgasm may seem like an easy solution to “get it over with”, improve your partner’s self esteem, increase arousal and even burn lots of calories. The downside is that it can lead to long-term problems in the relationship. People who fake it regularly are missing out on the chance to experience truly fulfilling sexual experiences and may find themselves seeking satisfaction outside of the relationship.
Once or twice is fine, but if faking orgasms is a long-term issue in your relationship, the best solution is to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Both partners should be respectful of each other’s concerns and focus on enjoying the sexual experience, rather than just the orgasm. Women, in particular, should never feel pressured to fake an orgasm, whether from themselves or their partner. Good sex, regardless of whether an orgasm is achieved, is what matters most.
Text by Anna Koliber,
author of “Faceless Lover” – erotic novel, available on Amazon